The Secret to Dealing with a Teenage Know-It-All
By Amy Morin, LCSW
VeryWell.come
Updated January 20, 2016Every day, teens learn new and exciting things, whether it’s an interesting fact from their biology lesson or an opinion they overheard while you were watching the morning news.
It’s likely your teen will want to not only share these new things with you, but also engage in a conversation about it from time to time. The problem occurs when a teen insists that he possesses the right knowledge--or, even worse, the onlyknowledge.
It’s frustrating to deal with a know-it-all teen, but insisting he knows more than you do is part of normal adolescent development. As teens learn how to express their ideas and share their knowledge, they often want to show they have opinions that vary from yours.
While it’s your job as their mother or father to gently correct rude behavior, it’s important to let your teen share his opinion. Here are a few tips for dealing with a teen who insists he knows more than you.
Listen to What Your Teen Has to SayWhether it’s something that is in direct conflict with your morals, it’s an argument that stems from complete ignorance, be willing to listen. Role model how to respectfully listen to someone else, even when you disagree.
Despite how obnoxious your teen may seem, your willingness to entertain is ideas is important. Listen with an open mind, because when something important does come along, you want to make sure your teen feels free to bring it to you.
Consider What’s Behind Your Teen’s AttitudeWhat’s behind your teen’s desire to have the correct knowledge on every topic under the sun? Some teens might simply be excited to share their vast brain power, but in some cases, it might stem from underlying insecurity.
If a teen thinks she doesn’t have much to offer but her smarts, she could want to show it off in every situation.
Or a teen who doesn’t do well academically may try to prove she’s intelligent by debating everything other people say. Once you realize why your teen feels the need to be a know-it-all, you can take steps to boost her confidence levels.
Resist Arguments
Even if your teen thinks he’s an adult, he’s not as mature as you. Therefore, he probably doesn’t know when to stop a battle of knowledges--but you do. Just because you’re the parent doesn’t mean you have to have the last word.
In their immaturity, your child will probably think you simply don’t understand what he’s saying, so he’ll keep going yet rephrase the same thing. Avoid a power struggle by saying something like, “That’s interesting. I have to go make dinner now.”
Set Limits and Follow Through with Consequences
Make it clear to your teen that actions speak louder than words. Establish clear limits and follow through with consequences when necessary.
When you remind your teen to do his homework and he responds by saying, “I know!” give him the opportunity to do it independently.
If he doesn’t finish his assignments, he’ll experience the natural consequence of a poor grade.
If however, your teen’s insistence that he knows everything becomes a safety issue, take immediate action. If he won’t accept direction from you about how to improve his driving, for example, take away his keys until he’s ready to listen.
Create a SignalOnce your teen has identified that he tends to be a bit of a know-it-all, work together to stop the behavior. Rather than an overbearing lecture in public, jointly come up with a signal that means he should back off. It could be coughing and rubbing your nose or a tap on the shoulder, but your teen should know it means that he’s gone a step too far, and continuing on the path could lead to consequences.
As a parent, it’s natural to want to correct your teen’s arrogant behavior, especially if you see that it’s causing social problems with his pals. Do so gently, remembering that your teen doesn’t have to maturity level yet to understand why sharing his “correct” knowledge is a bad thing.
Skip the shaming or lecturing, and explain why some people don’t like to be corrected or argued with. With a little bit of genial training, you can ensure your know-it-all teen doesn’t turn into a know-it-all adult.
By Amy Morin, LCSW
VeryWell.come
Updated January 20, 2016Every day, teens learn new and exciting things, whether it’s an interesting fact from their biology lesson or an opinion they overheard while you were watching the morning news.
It’s likely your teen will want to not only share these new things with you, but also engage in a conversation about it from time to time. The problem occurs when a teen insists that he possesses the right knowledge--or, even worse, the onlyknowledge.
It’s frustrating to deal with a know-it-all teen, but insisting he knows more than you do is part of normal adolescent development. As teens learn how to express their ideas and share their knowledge, they often want to show they have opinions that vary from yours.
While it’s your job as their mother or father to gently correct rude behavior, it’s important to let your teen share his opinion. Here are a few tips for dealing with a teen who insists he knows more than you.
Listen to What Your Teen Has to SayWhether it’s something that is in direct conflict with your morals, it’s an argument that stems from complete ignorance, be willing to listen. Role model how to respectfully listen to someone else, even when you disagree.
Despite how obnoxious your teen may seem, your willingness to entertain is ideas is important. Listen with an open mind, because when something important does come along, you want to make sure your teen feels free to bring it to you.
Consider What’s Behind Your Teen’s AttitudeWhat’s behind your teen’s desire to have the correct knowledge on every topic under the sun? Some teens might simply be excited to share their vast brain power, but in some cases, it might stem from underlying insecurity.
If a teen thinks she doesn’t have much to offer but her smarts, she could want to show it off in every situation.
Or a teen who doesn’t do well academically may try to prove she’s intelligent by debating everything other people say. Once you realize why your teen feels the need to be a know-it-all, you can take steps to boost her confidence levels.
Resist Arguments
Even if your teen thinks he’s an adult, he’s not as mature as you. Therefore, he probably doesn’t know when to stop a battle of knowledges--but you do. Just because you’re the parent doesn’t mean you have to have the last word.
In their immaturity, your child will probably think you simply don’t understand what he’s saying, so he’ll keep going yet rephrase the same thing. Avoid a power struggle by saying something like, “That’s interesting. I have to go make dinner now.”
Set Limits and Follow Through with Consequences
Make it clear to your teen that actions speak louder than words. Establish clear limits and follow through with consequences when necessary.
When you remind your teen to do his homework and he responds by saying, “I know!” give him the opportunity to do it independently.
If he doesn’t finish his assignments, he’ll experience the natural consequence of a poor grade.
If however, your teen’s insistence that he knows everything becomes a safety issue, take immediate action. If he won’t accept direction from you about how to improve his driving, for example, take away his keys until he’s ready to listen.
Create a SignalOnce your teen has identified that he tends to be a bit of a know-it-all, work together to stop the behavior. Rather than an overbearing lecture in public, jointly come up with a signal that means he should back off. It could be coughing and rubbing your nose or a tap on the shoulder, but your teen should know it means that he’s gone a step too far, and continuing on the path could lead to consequences.
As a parent, it’s natural to want to correct your teen’s arrogant behavior, especially if you see that it’s causing social problems with his pals. Do so gently, remembering that your teen doesn’t have to maturity level yet to understand why sharing his “correct” knowledge is a bad thing.
Skip the shaming or lecturing, and explain why some people don’t like to be corrected or argued with. With a little bit of genial training, you can ensure your know-it-all teen doesn’t turn into a know-it-all adult.
By Amy Morin, LCSW
Updated January 20, 2016Every day, teens learn new and exciting things, whether it’s an interesting fact from their biology lesson or an opinion they overheard while you were watching the morning news.
It’s likely your teen will want to not only share these new things with you, but also engage in a conversation about it from time to time. The problem occurs when a teen insists that he possesses the right knowledge--or, even worse, the onlyknowledge.
It’s frustrating to deal with a know-it-all teen, but insisting he knows more than you do is part of normal adolescent development. As teens learn how to express their ideas and share their knowledge, they often want to show they have opinions that vary from yours.
While it’s your job as their mother or father to gently correct rude behavior, it’s important to let your teen share his opinion. Here are a few tips for dealing with a teen who insists he knows more than you.
Listen to What Your Teen Has to SayWhether it’s something that is in direct conflict with your morals, it’s an argument that stems from complete ignorance, be willing to listen. Role model how to respectfully listen to someone else, even when you disagree.
Despite how obnoxious your teen may seem, your willingness to entertain is ideas is important. Listen with an open mind, because when something important does come along, you want to make sure your teen feels free to bring it to you.
Consider What’s Behind Your Teen’s AttitudeWhat’s behind your teen’s desire to have the correct knowledge on every topic under the sun? Some teens might simply be excited to share their vast brain power, but in some cases, it might stem from underlying insecurity.
If a teen thinks she doesn’t have much to offer but her smarts, she could want to show it off in every situation.
Or a teen who doesn’t do well academically may try to prove she’s intelligent by debating everything other people say. Once you realize why your teen feels the need to be a know-it-all, you can take steps to boost her confidence levels.
Resist Arguments
Even if your teen thinks he’s an adult, he’s not as mature as you. Therefore, he probably doesn’t know when to stop a battle of knowledges--but you do. Just because you’re the parent doesn’t mean you have to have the last word.
In their immaturity, your child will probably think you simply don’t understand what he’s saying, so he’ll keep going yet rephrase the same thing. Avoid a power struggle by saying something like, “That’s interesting. I have to go make dinner now.”
Set Limits and Follow Through with Consequences
Make it clear to your teen that actions speak louder than words. Establish clear limits and follow through with consequences when necessary.
When you remind your teen to do his homework and he responds by saying, “I know!” give him the opportunity to do it independently.
If he doesn’t finish his assignments, he’ll experience the natural consequence of a poor grade.
If however, your teen’s insistence that he knows everything becomes a safety issue, take immediate action. If he won’t accept direction from you about how to improve his driving, for example, take away his keys until he’s ready to listen.
Create a SignalOnce your teen has identified that he tends to be a bit of a know-it-all, work together to stop the behavior. Rather than an overbearing lecture in public, jointly come up with a signal that means he should back off. It could be coughing and rubbing your nose or a tap on the shoulder, but your teen should know it means that he’s gone a step too far, and continuing on the path could lead to consequences.
As a parent, it’s natural to want to correct your teen’s arrogant behavior, especially if you see that it’s causing social problems with his pals. Do so gently, remembering that your teen doesn’t have to maturity level yet to understand why sharing his “correct” knowledge is a bad thing.
Skip the shaming or lecturing, and explain why some people don’t like to be corrected or argued with. With a little bit of genial training, you can ensure your know-it-all teen doesn’t turn into a know-it-all adult.
Updated January 20, 2016Every day, teens learn new and exciting things, whether it’s an interesting fact from their biology lesson or an opinion they overheard while you were watching the morning news.
It’s likely your teen will want to not only share these new things with you, but also engage in a conversation about it from time to time. The problem occurs when a teen insists that he possesses the right knowledge--or, even worse, the onlyknowledge.
It’s frustrating to deal with a know-it-all teen, but insisting he knows more than you do is part of normal adolescent development. As teens learn how to express their ideas and share their knowledge, they often want to show they have opinions that vary from yours.
While it’s your job as their mother or father to gently correct rude behavior, it’s important to let your teen share his opinion. Here are a few tips for dealing with a teen who insists he knows more than you.
Listen to What Your Teen Has to SayWhether it’s something that is in direct conflict with your morals, it’s an argument that stems from complete ignorance, be willing to listen. Role model how to respectfully listen to someone else, even when you disagree.
Despite how obnoxious your teen may seem, your willingness to entertain is ideas is important. Listen with an open mind, because when something important does come along, you want to make sure your teen feels free to bring it to you.
Consider What’s Behind Your Teen’s AttitudeWhat’s behind your teen’s desire to have the correct knowledge on every topic under the sun? Some teens might simply be excited to share their vast brain power, but in some cases, it might stem from underlying insecurity.
If a teen thinks she doesn’t have much to offer but her smarts, she could want to show it off in every situation.
Or a teen who doesn’t do well academically may try to prove she’s intelligent by debating everything other people say. Once you realize why your teen feels the need to be a know-it-all, you can take steps to boost her confidence levels.
Resist Arguments
Even if your teen thinks he’s an adult, he’s not as mature as you. Therefore, he probably doesn’t know when to stop a battle of knowledges--but you do. Just because you’re the parent doesn’t mean you have to have the last word.
In their immaturity, your child will probably think you simply don’t understand what he’s saying, so he’ll keep going yet rephrase the same thing. Avoid a power struggle by saying something like, “That’s interesting. I have to go make dinner now.”
Set Limits and Follow Through with Consequences
Make it clear to your teen that actions speak louder than words. Establish clear limits and follow through with consequences when necessary.
When you remind your teen to do his homework and he responds by saying, “I know!” give him the opportunity to do it independently.
If he doesn’t finish his assignments, he’ll experience the natural consequence of a poor grade.
If however, your teen’s insistence that he knows everything becomes a safety issue, take immediate action. If he won’t accept direction from you about how to improve his driving, for example, take away his keys until he’s ready to listen.
Create a SignalOnce your teen has identified that he tends to be a bit of a know-it-all, work together to stop the behavior. Rather than an overbearing lecture in public, jointly come up with a signal that means he should back off. It could be coughing and rubbing your nose or a tap on the shoulder, but your teen should know it means that he’s gone a step too far, and continuing on the path could lead to consequences.
As a parent, it’s natural to want to correct your teen’s arrogant behavior, especially if you see that it’s causing social problems with his pals. Do so gently, remembering that your teen doesn’t have to maturity level yet to understand why sharing his “correct” knowledge is a bad thing.
Skip the shaming or lecturing, and explain why some people don’t like to be corrected or argued with. With a little bit of genial training, you can ensure your know-it-all teen doesn’t turn into a know-it-all adult.
Much thanks to Lori Roberts and the other contributors to the Power Point presentation of the E Tech Conference held in Columbus on Feb. 9-11, 2016
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From Carol Bainbridge, your Guide to Gifted Children
What can you and your child learn about and explore in September? It's Classical Music Month, so you can get your child started with piano lessons. But there's much more. September also includes Constitution Week, Tolkien Week, and Talk Like a Pirate Day,
Special Days and Observances in September
If you are looking for some interesting topics for homeschooling, for supplementing work from school, or just for some fun, check out the special days and observances.
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Month-Long Observances in September
Need some ideas on what to study or explore for the entire month of September? Some observances last for the entire month. In addition to September being National Piano Month, it is also Classical Music Month. Why not spend some time teaching your child some classical music appreciation?
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Week-Long Observances in September
If you're looking for topics to spend less than a month on, check out the weekly observances in September. There are some good ones, including Constitution Week and National Keep Kids Creative Week.
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Piano for Children
Since September is National Piano Month, it's the perfect time to introduce your child to the piano. Pay a visit to a piano store so your child can "test" piano playing. But you don't have to start out buying a full piano. You can start with a keyboard and work up to a piano.
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Apps for Creativity and Imagination
Sago Mini Doodlecast is great
for K-1st grade students and
meets ELA Literacy SL.K.5,
SL.K.6, SL.1.4, and SL1.5.
for K-1st grade students and
meets ELA Literacy SL.K.5,
SL.K.6, SL.1.4, and SL1.5.
Toca Builders promotes creativity, motor coordination, and identification of colors.
Write to Read is great for beginning and struggling writers.
The Ohio Department of Education website has valuable information on requirements and timelines for gifted. And the OAGC website, as well as NAGC website, contains updated articles, trends, and materials on gifted education.
www.whodunnit.com
Each mystery is a report written in the 1st person perspective about a fictional crime. Your students read the investigation while role-playing as private detectives, and then either write about, or discuss, the possible culprit. Only then do you reveal to them the "resolution" for the case. You'll be amazed at how much your students love these reading assignments.
Each mystery is a report written in the 1st person perspective about a fictional crime. Your students read the investigation while role-playing as private detectives, and then either write about, or discuss, the possible culprit. Only then do you reveal to them the "resolution" for the case. You'll be amazed at how much your students love these reading assignments.